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Chapters 9, 10, 11
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Thursday, April 12, 2012 6:29:33 PM
joannabeard
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Chapters 9, 10, 11

Answer the questions below and reply to one post.                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Do you think you can use "I'm sorry that it happened."  effectively?  Describe one situation that you think it would be beneficial in.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              How good are you at ignoring minor behaviors?  Which point did you find the most interesting?                                                     

Monday, April 16, 2012 9:16:53 AM
wendyhagan
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11

I believe that I can use "I'm sorry that it happened" in an effective manner.  There are times that students with behavioral issues get into situations at school.  Even though I am truly sorry the instance occurred, the student still must face the consequences of their actions. 

I do a pretty good job of ignoring the minor behaviors.  In my room, there are so many "minor behaviors" that if I addressed every one of them I would never get anything educational completed. 
Monday, April 16, 2012 12:53:05 PM
debbierawls
Joined on 17 January, 2011
15 Posts
Re: Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11

That was an insightful point of how the principal used the "highway patrol" technique.  If the student responded as he hoped,  the principal would be able to "lessen" the student's  consequences.  The student would have consequences but would see how repairing his bad behavior was beneficial to him.
Wednesday, April 18, 2012 11:25:45 AM
calliebruce
Joined on 17 January, 2011
12 Posts
Re: Re: Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11

I liked that too because attitude and response to discipline should have an outcome on consequence.
Wednesday, April 18, 2012 11:35:15 AM
kmilligan
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11

I agree both should have some type of reinforcement.
Thursday, May 17, 2012 8:59:40 AM
rebekahbass
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Re: Re: Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (1)

I thought that technique was interesting.
Thursday, May 10, 2012 11:34:49 AM
mdrurey
Joined on 17 January, 2011
15 Posts
Re: Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (1)

Yes, I agree saying your sorry doesn't mean you don't have to face the consequences.
Monday, April 16, 2012 12:49:06 PM
debbierawls
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (1)

I am thankful to say that I can use the "I'm sorry that it happened" technique.  I have used it with parents and students.  I once corrected a student in front of a small group. The student explained what happened which was not the way that I had interpreted it.  I apologized to the student privately that day and in front of the group the next day. 

Although not too bad of a transgressor in this area, I could be better and will work harder at ignoring minor behaviors.  The point I think is most interesting is that ignoring minor behaviors affects high achievers in the same way as the mediocre or underachiever.  Majoring on the positive encourages while nit picking squashes creativity and participation.
Wednesday, April 18, 2012 11:23:15 AM
calliebruce
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (2)

I cannot count the times a day I use "I am so sorry that happened"!!! In PE, injuries happen all day long and some so minor not really an injury, but a hurt feeling. I have also had to tell numerous parents this year I am so sorry that happened concerning an injury at PE. It is a phrase that covers so much.

I am the boss at ignoring minor behaviors, because that is my job in PE. A point I found interesting is that with kids if we say no too often.....their response becomes to tune us out. I see this with my own kids.
Thursday, April 19, 2012 11:29:43 AM
wendyhagan
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Re: Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (2)

I can see where that phrase would be used continually in that situation!!!
Wednesday, April 18, 2012 11:34:08 AM
kmilligan
Joined on 17 January, 2011
16 Posts
Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (3)

Yes ,mfor example a student say he studied all night for a test but still scores bad.
I can ignore minor behaviors but I often make a mental note to prevent them from escalating into a more serious offense.the point I found interesting is that students may mimic the teachers behavior.
Thursday, May 10, 2012 11:44:02 AM
mdrurey
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (4)

 I have always apologized for everything no matter the situation.  Saying your sorry is a great thing even if you did nothing, sometimes it just helps to hear it.  I think it would be very beneficial in parent-teacher conferences.  
I am fairly good at ignore minor behaviors, but sometimes shouldn't let kids push my buttons. I like the statement from the book "Effective teachers model self-control; their classroom management is grounded in their ability to manage their own behavior."

Wednesday, May 16, 2012 12:37:03 PM
dmcintosh
Joined on 17 January, 2011
13 Posts
Re: Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (4)

That is a very good point.
Wednesday, May 16, 2012 12:34:39 PM
dmcintosh
Joined on 17 January, 2011
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Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (5)

Yes.  By telling a parent "I'm sorry that happened", you are showing empathy for the situation that they are concerned with.  This lets them know that you are concerned about their child without taking fault.

You must learn to pick your battles.  Many students misbehave for attention.  Simply ignoring minor errors can prevent larger ones from developing.
Thursday, May 17, 2012 8:58:51 AM
rebekahbass
Joined on 17 January, 2011
12 Posts
Re: Chapters 9, 10, 11 (6)

I use "I'm sorry that it happened"  all the time, especially with my husband,  because I do not have to admit guilt.  If it works with him, I'm sure it would work with parents.

I do try to ignore minor behaviors.